Mama Cares • Being relational... | I'm Sorry, But... | How apologising really works. Mama Cares ❤️ #queermama #queer #queerberlin #mentalhealth #psychology #selflove #selftalk #life #wins #mindset #mind #mindfulness #love #relationships #relation #apologize #apology

We're back with Gay Consent.Lab Season 2! Gay Consent.Lab is a workshop & sharing circle on consent, care, pleasure, and abuse in the gay community. During the Lab, we will discuss these issues in the context of sex, drugs, raves and chills. We talk about consent and abuse either as victim, perpetrator or bystander or somewhere in the grey areas between them, and use it as a platform to create actions to achieve more pleasure from sex, dancing, intimacy, etc. This Spring, for a second season, we meet every two weeks on Thursdays in Neukölln. The next dates are: • 13 April • 20 April • 4 May • 18 May • 6 June • 22 June (stay tuned for more dates in July). The workshop is open to everyone and you can join any or all of the workshop sessions. We ask you to please register once before your first participation. Register on: www.queermama.org or send an email to: gayconsentlab@gmail.com The project is organised with the support of Lecken, Queer Mama & Social Pleasure Center. #queer #queermama #queermamas #queermamaberlin #gay #gayberlin #consent #pleasure #gaychill #llecken #queerberlin #technoberlin #pleasure

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Let's talk about... What are inner child wounds? (part 2) The inner child that lives in every human psyche directly (although most times unconsciously) influences all that you do. It gives you awe, joy, innocence, carefree moments. When wounded, your inner child can become full of anger, shame, recklessness, and sometimes rage because of the physical, emotional, and psychological neglect you experienced as a child. In adulthood, your inner child becomes the lens through which you make your decisions. This lens is (for some more, for others less) distorted when your inner child wounds are unhealed. Becoming aware and healing these wounds is an essential part of becoming an adult. Mama Cares ❤️ #queermama #queer #queerberlin #mentalhealth #psychology #selflove #selftalk #life #mindset #mind #mindfulness #thinking #thoughts #emotions #feelings #cbt #cognitive #flexibility #perspective #healing #frustration #gayberlin #flinta #flintaberlin #lgbt #lgbtq #lgbtberlin #innerchild #inneechildhealing #innerchildwork

Let's talk about... Your Inner Child - Part 1. The concept of the Inner Child explains that there is a part of all our psyches that remains full of innocence, awe, joy, and wonder. When our inner child is healthy, and we are connected with it, we tend to be invigorated, inspired, and excited. However, what happens when our inner child is wounded from our past, and we are disconnected from it? When we ignore the inner child in our psyches, as adults, we dismiss a vital part of ourselves. By doing so, we prevent healing wounds that are lodged in our inner child and we often lose control in our adult lives. Masculine, patriarchal, and capitalist structures heavily influence us to hide, dismiss, and become estranged from our inner child. Understanding, accepting, healing, and building a relationship with our inner child has a direct impact on the quality of our lives and our psychological well-being. Mama Cares ❤️ Photograph by Gerome Viavant. Photograph licensed under the terms of the Creative Commons Attribution License. #queermama #queer #queerberlin #mentalhealth #psychology #selflove #selftalk #life #mindset #mind #mindfulness #thinking #thoughts #emotions #feelings #cbt #cognitive #flexibility #perspective #healing #frustration #gayberlin #flinta #flintaberlin #lgbt #lgbtq #lgbtberlin

What you say to yourself... Let's try to understand the real messages from anxiety by using an example that many can relate to: Chasing an emotionally unavailable person is an unconscious way of healing the abandonment wound. Abandonment doesn't just happen physically (someone actually leaves your life during a time of need), it also more often happens in micro moments of emotional disconnection, which has become a rampant cultural norm in the West. Secure attachment has a foundation has a foundation in presence and emotional responsiveness. Anxiety happens when we're left to be with our fear and pain without the warmth and empathy we need from someone to be with us through it. The anxiety is telling you that it not so much about what happened to you, it is an indication of what happens inside of you, in this example, that you were left alone with the pain. So, the pattern to chase someone who is not there for you, your inner child is saying I need someone to be there for me through my pain and fear. Honour your need for emotional availability. Be someone who is present, compassionate, empathic, and sensitive to what you feel and need when you have moments of anxiety. Mama Cares ❤ #queermama #queer #queerberlin #mentalhealth #psychology #selflove #selftalk #life #mindset #mind #mindfulness #thinking #thoughts #emotions #feelings #cbt #cognitive #flexibility #perspective #healing #frustration #gayberlin #flinta #flintaberlin #lgbt #lgbtq #lgbtberlin

Let's talk about... Healing & Frustration. Improvement in mental health typically follows a similar path to improvement in physical health. A slow process that is sometimes unnoticeable until a certain point is reached. Setbacks are part of the process, however, sometimes a setback can be the thing that helps us realize how far we’ve come. Yes, this can be very tiring, frustrating and disappointing, but you really want to avoid stressing over your exhaustion and depression, as this only perpetuates that which you are trying to heal. The key to coping with this process in a more comfortable manner and finding inner peace is acceptance. Acceptance of your feelings, your symptoms, your limits, your losses, your suffering, your diagnoses etc. However, there needs to be a fine balance between acceptance and action. If you go too far in either direction, there is disharmony. Acceptance without action leads to stagnation, while action without acceptance leads to more frustration, disappointment and burnout. Acceptance is not defeat. You don’t throw in the towel and give up on healing. You continue to move forward and try to heal simultaneously. It means that you accept that this is the way things are at this time in your live, but you continue to search for ways to improve the situation. You see the situation realistically, but you continue to have hope. Mama Cares ❤️ #queermama #queer #queerberlin #mentalhealth #psychology #selflove #selftalk #life #mindset #mind #mindfulness #thinking #thoughts #emotions #feelings #cbt #cognitive #flexibility #perspective #healing #frustration #gayberlin #flinta #flintaberlin #lgbt #lgbtq #lgbtberlin

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Lets talk about... How to separate Thoughts from Emotions 3/3. Maybe you label your thoughts as emotions. For example, you might react to an event with the words: "I feel so betrayed." In truth, betrayal is not a feeling, but an action that you label in your thoughts. You may feel sad, angry, or hurt as a result of betrayal, or even at the thought that you have been betrayed. Thoughts and feelings are both part of the experience of being betrayed. Perhaps saying, "I feel betrayed," is a shorthand way of relating that total experience, but neither thoughts nor feelings are accurately expressed. If the thought is left out, it changes your experience and makes coping more difficult. Being able to accurately label the emotion you are experiencing is part of managing that emotion effectively. Accurately labeling the experience as "I think I am stupid" leads to a different result. You can challenge your thoughts and check to see if they are accurate. If you ask yourself if it is true that you are stupid, then there are likely to be many situations that disprove that idea. Mama Cares ❤️ #queermama #queer #queerberlin #mentalhealth #psychology #selflove #selftalk #life #mindset #mind #mindfulness #thinking #thoughts #emotions #feelings #cbt #cognitive #flexibility #perspective

Lets talk about... Thoughts 2/3. Developing flexibility in our thinking is key. Overcoming our biases and interpreting situations differently is a skill of perspective-taking (trying to see a situation from another point of view) that can be practiced. The more mentally flexible we become the more easily we will be able to "weather the storms" of life, called cognitive flexibility. To practice your perspective-taking skills you can ask yourself the following questions when you encounter a situation that bothers you: “What is another way of looking at this situation?” “What would a friend say to me about this?” “Will I even remember this problem in ten years’ time?” “How would I respond to this situation if I had no fear?” Mama Cares ❤️ #queermama #queer #queerberlin #mentalhealth #psychology #selflove #selftalk #life #wins #mindset #mind #mindfulness #thinking #thoughts #cbt #cognitive #flexibility #perspective